Day 12 – Made for Singleness

Day 12 – Made for Singleness

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honour one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervour, serving the Lord.
Romans 12:9-11

(Continued from Day 8)
“We’re meant to be family, not isolated individuals.”
“Amen to that sister.”
The two ladies sip their coffee, enjoying the moment, before Deanna speaks again.
“So… any chance you’ll bring someone to dinner with Mark and I?”
Rebecca sighs and puts down her cup.
“I’ve told you before Dee, I’m not interested in dating.”
“You don’t have to date, you could always just go out and have dinner with new people.”
“Why are you so keen to get me hooked up with someone?”
“I’m not… I’m just…”
The newly married woman sighs and puts down her own cup.
“Okay, maybe I am. You’re not getting any younger. You’ll be thirty in January, and there’s not that many good single Christian men out there. If you don’t look, how can you hope to find one? I want you to be able to have a beautiful wedding, and marry the man of your dreams. Maybe I have marriage on the brain at the moment, can you blame me?”
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“No, but Dee… I’m not interested in dating. I’m serious.”

“So am I! Why the reluctance to get married?”

“Deanna… marriage just isn’t for me. I’m glad that you could get married, I really am, but it’s not something that I want to think about.”
“Why not?”
“Because… because I’m just not interested in guys Dee. Never have been.”
“What? Are you saying you’re…?”
Rebecca shakes her head “No, I’m not gay. I’m just… I don’t feel desire like that. I don’t know why, but I’ve never felt that sort of heart-racing passion. I have my family; I have my friends. That’s enough for me.”
“I’m, I’m sorry Bec. I didn’t know, are you okay?”
She bursts into laughter, breaking the tension.

“Dee, I’m fine. There’s nothing wrong with me, I’m just different to you. I love my life, and I love what I do have. Do you understand?”

“Maybe? I don’t know. It’s a lot to take in.”
“Not really. I’m still me, I’m just not the same as everyone else. Never have been. We’re still sisters, and we’re still besties. None of that has to change.”
(To be continued…)
Heavenly Father,
We thank you for our uniqueness, that you made each of us different, and have given us each a different path in life.
We repent of our idolatry of marriage, that we assume too often that all men and women have the same worldly needs, and that to be different is somehow wrong.
May the Holy Spirit show us a better way, that we might instead seek to be made complete in you, rather than in any other way.
In Jesus’ name,
Devotionals written by Ben & Thea Pratt with editorial assistance by
Warwick Marsh & David Rowsome from Canberra Declaration with thanks for input and advice from an interdenominational editorial team. The team at the Canberra Declaration also thank the team at the National Day of Prayer & Fasting for their kind assistanceSign Up here if you would like to receive these devotionals direct to your inbox